Relationships (or lack thereof)

If you approach an open relationship on the basis of 'our relationship isn't working, perhaps we should try an open relationship, to outsource the problems', then that is unhealthy, and the relationship is doomed to fail. Mainly because that's avoiding the issue, and is an incredibly stupid idea. However, polyamory is a mindset in the same way as monogamy is, and people can, and do, have healthy relationships in such a set up. For the polyamory-inclined people that I know, having a monogamous relationship is as difficult as difficult as monogamy-inclined people having a monogamous one. Polyamory acceptance or non-acceptance is a societal construct, but for me, I'm okay with open relationships, though I myself am a largely monogamous man.
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I am a Star Wars fan. That doesn't mean that I hate or love Jar Jar. That doesn't mean I hate or love Lucas, or agree or disagree 100% with him. That doesn't mean I prefer the PT over the OT, or vice versa. That doesn't mean I hate the EU, or even love all of it. These are not prerequisites. Being a man is not a prerequisite. Being a geek is not a prerequisite. The only prerequisite is that I love something about Star Wars. I am a Star Wars fan.

I am in the process of composing a love letter. Smile

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Where sky and water meet,
Where the waves grow sweet,
Doubt not, Reepicheep,
To find all you seek,
There is the utter east.

EUC Staff Joined: 15 Sep 2010 Posts: 1137 Location: Kansas

No. That's what the letter is for. Wink

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Where sky and water meet,
Where the waves grow sweet,
Doubt not, Reepicheep,
To find all you seek,
There is the utter east.

Good luck, Reep. Smile

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All things die, Anakin Skywalker, even stars burn out.

So this is how liberty dies....with thunderous applause.

Those without swords can still die upon them

The world is a mess and I just need to rule it.

Minor gripe: the professor of one of my classes held an end of the semester dinner for us. In the course of talking I found out that one of the women in my class (who I had talked to briefly prior to the dinner) lives right outside my home town. Now given that we seemed to be having a decent time talking I thought it couldn't hurt to suggest the possibility of getting together sometime over break. However, instead of coming out assertively I came out with the totally vauge "well maybe we'll run into each other at popular location X over break."

So currently hating myself for slipping into being incredibly self concious/guarded because of the presence of the professor (I have tendency to slip into that mode around my folks or any one I consider an elder/superior) resulting into an indicisive act instead of being assertive. Also wishing I had the chance to remedy my mistake but short of a unbelievably lucky encounter in the library or e-mail (of which I have my doubts that it would not be totally sketch) there will be no such chance since there are no more class meetings.

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Master Joined: 21 Mar 2010 Posts: 816 Location: Maryland

Hmmm well next week is finals so I know I'd have to wait a week for such a proposal to be at all rational.

In that regard I could wait until near the end of finals week and then shoot her an e-mail then. I could also wait until the following week but I'm not sure if I'd be letting too much time pass and loosing whatever small amount of momentum I may have working in my favor.
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Master Joined: 21 Mar 2010 Posts: 816 Location: Maryland

I agree with Vile, that sounds good.
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"It's not about the legacy you leave, it's about the life you live." ~Mara Jade Skywalker

Okay, guys. Remember that letter I was writing (a few posts up)? There is this girl, Sara, that I've loved for a long, long time. We used to go to my church youth group together, but I haven't seen her in quite awhile. I decided to put my thoughts into words and write her a letter and send it in the mail and see what happens. Well, I never got a reply. I was pretty sure she would have said something and I wondered if my letter got lost in the mail, never reached her etc. I decided to look up her e-mail address and send her an e-mail to see what's happening. I didn't mention the letter at all, it was just a generic "Hey, haven't seen you in a while" e-mail. Anyway, minutes after I sent the e-mail I got a reply from her in my inbox. I'm scared to look. I've had an emotionally taxing day as it is, so I think I'm going to save it until tomorrow after school. Dang, I'm nervous. Confused

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Where sky and water meet,
Where the waves grow sweet,
Doubt not, Reepicheep,
To find all you seek,
There is the utter east.

Master Joined: 15 Apr 2008 Posts: 4434 Location: Korriban

I know. I'm checking as soon as I get home from school. I just didn't want to do it right before bed.
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Where sky and water meet,
Where the waves grow sweet,
Doubt not, Reepicheep,
To find all you seek,
There is the utter east.

Master Joined: 15 Apr 2008 Posts: 4434 Location: Korriban

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