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Hey, Judicar. This is a tough one, to be sure. But I've had a similar experience of sorts. I'd rather not share the experience, but I'll do my very best to share with you what I learned from it.
First of all, if your friend is having feelings toward you, that's something he absolutely cannot help. So that wouldn't be his fault. Second, try to understand that those feelings are sometimes extremely hard to cope with. The fact that he's talking to somebody about it is probably simply because he needs to talk about it. And it's not normally something that's easy to discuss with one's friends. So one tends to go to a neutral party for help.
Now, I'm assuming you're not having the same feelings for him? And/or that you're not gay. In that case, I wouldn't mention that you're aware of his feelings. Because then it would eventually become known that you don't have any feelings toward him, and it would turn into an extrememly awkward friendship. I would venture to say that your friendship would probably be severely weakened by the whole thing, if not totally crushed. If he is attempting to supress his feelings toward you, and never makes you aware of the fact that he likes you (and seems to do his best to act normal toward you), then I would do my best to forget about it and be friends. He won't be able to quash those feelings, but as long as he's attemping to suppress them, that's the best he can do.
On the other hand, if he makes it obvious that he likes you and wants to know if you feel the same, well...then you're going to have to stop and talk about it. I don't really know what to tell you beyond that in that case, because that never happened to me. But in such a case, I would just say that you'll have to tell him the truth. Because he decided to come out and say what he felt, instead of keeping it to himself, he's going to need to be prepared for such a response. I would simply tell the truth and hope for the best.
Now if you're indeed having feelings for him as well (whether you consider yourself gay or not), I would give it time. Don't come right out and say that you know how he feels, but wait and see if he takes it any further. If you feel like you want to say something simply because of how you feel, then go right ahead. He would probably be relieved that he's not the only one feeling that way.
Now...I've mentioned this in other places on the forums, but I believe homosexuality is wrong. So I just want to make it clear that I'm not endorsing that sort of relationship. However, I'm also not going to tell you whether you should or shouldn't be gay. That is your decision, not mine. So please don't think I'm judging you in that area. I simply want to clarify my beliefs regarding that.
So anyway, all of that above is simply my advice from what I've previously gone through. You can take it or leave it, but either way...I hope for the best between you and your friend. 
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"It's not about the legacy you leave, it's about the life you live." ~Mara Jade Skywalker
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