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So my buddy dated this girl back in 2008. Gorgeous, funny, big nerd, cool, one of the most amazing people I know. They didn't last long but it was exciting to have a friend get that lucky, even for awhile.
Today they are still friends. The relationship remains, right under the surface. He has had every chance in the world to make a move and still doesn't. He has watched her date other men unsuccessfully, all the while trying to make improvements to his life and work up the ladder. He is now an adult and still one of my best friends, as is she. She's dating a guy who isn't really right for her. Nothing wrong with him, but they just don't fit well and she knows it. Her friendship with my buddy is still barely masking what sits there dormant and waiting underneath. I grow sad watching them dance this dance, each waiting for the other to make the first move and knowing that each is worried about it going wrong again and ruining their friendship (despite the fact that after knowing him for eight years and her for six years they are very obviously quite perfect for each other) and nothing is happening. I hear from both of them and they've both felt the need to confide in me due to how close I am to them. This is...awkward for me. At one time or another I've told them both to grow a pair and go for it, and my buddy claims he's being patient while she claims she's still unsure so won't do anything until he does.
Good lord, I don't understand how people do things like this. I've never really hidden anything that I think so this is naturally different for me in terms of comprehension, but it would seem to me that if you care that deeply about a person and cannot imagine life without them that the problem would eventually solve itself but apparently it doesn't work that way. Oh well, my patience will continue because they are both very dear to me. I sigh in exasperation.
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Perfection is a lifelong pursuit requiring sacrifice. The only way to get it quicker is to sacrifice the most.
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